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3 easy practices to bring more peace and presence into your daily life

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1. Sit still for 10 minutes in the morning to practice bringing your attention back to your breath. This is like dental floss for mental health. (Notice I have not used the “M” word! Too intimidating.) Sit comfortably wherever you are, set a timer for 10 minutes, and breathe. Every time your mind starts wandering/planning, gently bring your attention back to your breath. It’s like training a puppy without the messes to clean up. I think you’ll find that your energy is calmer, your concentration sharper and you enjoy life more.

2. Use color coding in your calendar app to track self care. If your calendar looks anything like mine, full of dull little boxes, and you’re feeling disconnected or completely overwhelmed, this is a simple way to commit to better self care. If you use Google Calendar or Outlook, choose a color that makes you feel peaceful. Use this color to code self-care activities, even small ones, like taking a 15 minute walk, sitting still for 10 minutes or your PiYo class. At the beginning of the week (or month, depending on how you roll) make sure this lovely color is scattered throughout your days, and stick to your commitments to yourself. You’re the only one who can, and you’ll see a big payoff.

flower3.  Put a stake in the ground for creativity. You know you need more creative outlets. Watching House of Cards and helping your kids make Christmas ornaments with pipe cleaners isn’t cutting it. If you haven’t had an idea that excites you for months, try this: make a commitment to a creative project and announce the deadline to your friends and colleagues.

You don’t have to know how you’ll do it, only that you will. (I finally offered an Animal Wisdom workshop after wanting to for years by renting a space and telling a few friends. It was the best thing I did all year.) Paint a painting, host an open house to display your photos, or make one actual bowl in a pottery class. (If you’ve ever taken beginning pottery, this is a reasonable goal. :)

I’d love to hear from you – what simple things made your 2013 better?



Nuisance or Miracle?

tent_caterpillarI believe that creatures embody and show us deep wisdom about the world. In their physical beauty, intricacy and behavior, they are always offering new perspectives and opportunities for joy and gratitude.

To see creatures in this new way, sometimes you have to blur your vision a little. You know the way you see a baby, or a child you love, through the eyes of love the minute they appear in your mind or in your presence?

With creatures, sometimes it takes some practice to see them this way, especially if you are used to seeing them through ego eyes. For example, tent caterpillars. Here in the west, we generally consider them to be a great nuisance. If you’re a gardener or just want your trees to have leaves, tent caterpillars, in their great abundance and desperate hunger, are easily seen as the enemy.
When you blur your eyes with love a little, however, you may notice that they are fuzzy and

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golden and curl their bodies gracefully when on the move. And they are the occasion for major celebration for robins, who feast on them with delight. Maybe this moth-face close-up will help you with the “love eyes.”

To help transform your frustration to delight, consider what tent caterpillars are capable of:

In early spring they hatch from eggs in a silken tent built to catch the morning sun. They “expand” the tent as they grow, and leave during the day to forage, returning to the tent in cooler temperatures and at night. In about a month, the caterpillars find a sheltered spot to weave a cocoon from their bodies, and in about two weeks emerge as a beautiful golden moth.

So, in six weeks they go from worm to wings.

What else are you seeing as a nuisance that could be a miracle, if you can blur your eyes a little?

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Tiny warriors for Joy!

It’s hummingbird season here in the Pacific Northwest. In many cultures, hummingbirds are a symbol of joy, sweetness and balance.

They seem like tiny angels whose very existence  is a miracle. They go from flower to feeder in a nectar-scented cloud, defying the laws of gravity. They weigh less than an ounce, and flap their tiny wings 40-80 times per second.

However, they have another side.  (Cue ominous music…)

This week I’ve been watching the Rufous and Anna’s at the feeder on our front window, spellbound by their tiny antics. I’ve noticed that…

  • They are constantly chasing each other while emitting a helicopter-like buzzing sound and flaring their tail feathers to look bigger.
  • They swoop down with their tiny needle-like beaks poised for a fight.
  • While feeding, they remain vigilant, perched on eyelash-sized feet. They take breaks from drinking to scan the skies and trees, ready to attack if anyone should interrupt their meal, their thread-like tongues flicking out to get the last drops of nectar. (Table sugar boiled in water on my kitchen stove.)

I’ve been tempted to think that their joyful reputation was an oversimplification based on lack of understanding, since clearly they aren’t always in a good mood, let alone an angelic one.

And then it occurred to me: why should it be a contradiction to be a joyful warrior?

Our culture places these paradigms at opposite ends of a spectrum, implying that joy comes only through peace, or even passivity. And a warrior must be ever-vigilant to trouble, warding off feelings of contentment or rapture with adrenaline.

In my experience, however, joy arises when we create the conditions for it. It naturally emerges from a set of circumstances that are often of our own making. For example, when I get enough sleep, eat some protein for breakfast and spend 30 minutes engaged with the natural world in the morning, I tend toward Joy.

If I stay up too late watching Breaking Bad, have a cherry pop-tart for breakfast and start my workday in my pajamas, I tend toward stress, the opposite of Joy.

We often know exactly what we need to do to create the conditions for joy. The tough part, the part that requires a warrior’s focus and strength, is summoning the discipline to do what joy requires. In other words:

It takes work and discipline to create the conditions for joy.

A tiny creature that migrates about 5,000 miles each year must be very strong and vigilant to stay aloft and fed. So don’t you deserve the right to tend to your own basic needs for balance? Your existence is just as miraculous as a hummingbird’s.



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